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Moving From Comparison to Inspiration
Curiosity. Lack of knowledge. Not knowing the answer. What images do these ideas conjure in our minds when we think about them? How does it feel in our gut to not understand something? Are we ok with that, or does it bring up some anxiety?
We live in a society when information of any and every kind is instantly at our fingertips. We want an answer, and immediately it is available to us. We have been conditioned to now be expected to know everything, or be ok with not having to learn anything.
If we have instant access to any information why is it that some of us (me included) sometimes have trouble admitting we don’t understand something?
I believe that many of us have a fraud complex. This is not a psychological term, but just a way for to describe a way of thinking that says “If you found out that I don’t know what I’m talking about you would reject me”.
This fraud complex is made more powerful by the thinking that expectations that are placed on some of this. Comparisons are made. “If you are not like your brother, then…”, or “You don’t do it like your Dad did, then…”. These expectations are born of a sense of lack.
Here is the truth I’m working on (imperfectly) these days. That truth is that we are enough. And, furthermore that each of us have gifts that nobody else has…
